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<p>I’m all for the grey! ( see my instamaggie_r_mcmillan) My hair was moist and always highlighted. There was a period when so much was going on in my life ( not in a good way!) that I somehow stopped having it highlighted. I Hurd there must have been a terrible in between stage but so much else was going on I don’t remember it. I’m lucky-my hair turned a white silver grey and everyone comments on it. The secret however I think for me is in the cut. I have a short distinctive cut . My hair has now become a signature &#8211; but by default.</p>


<p>No more rules, do and do nots for women. Let us be free to experiment. Let us be grey at 20 and take hrt until we die, of breast cancer or whatever, like a smoker. These are individual choices. Once, women were villified for having short hair or wearing trousers. They were told no to pain relief as childbirth pain was natural. If we have truly moved on, then grey is as valid a choice as pierced ears. It will suit some more than others, like skin tight leggings. But, like those leggings, it is personal comfort and desire that should dictate, not the prejudiced eyes of an onlooker. If I like what I see or how I feel dressed as a pirate, or sporting grey hair with bright red lips or bare faced as a babe, then good. And, no one should be made to wear high heels at work!</p>


<p>Looks lovely on lots of people but it is not for me&#8230;.lousy makes me look old!  Which I am of course but while I can I shall dye dye dye!! 😁</p>


<p>There’s plenty of time in middle age to be grey! However the trend for young women to choose to be grey makes us of a certain age feel less Duffy Duffy! Speaking of which what’s wrong with cardigans? Been wearing them since my 20s. Didn’t realise they were considered an OAP clothes item!</p>


<p>Crazy! Grey comes naturally &amp; soon enough. Sure, embrace it when it does start but enjoy your youthful rich colour now, especially if you’re dark haired. Speaking as a 64 yr young still mousy (boring) with grey at the back (!) &amp; beginning to grey on top I have had highlights for years &amp; I tend to merge with the grey as it increases. ‘Enjoy’ if you can each stage. I’m looking forward to the grey increasing as it’s supposed to be thicker/coarser with more body 🤷‍♀️ I hope so any way!</p>


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<p><strong>J&#8217;ADORE, says Muddy contributor, Lucy Foster</strong></p>
<p>I have an admission to make. I want to go grey. No, no, you heard correctly: I actually <em>want</em> to go grey. But not grey as in bring out the Crocs and the dreamcatcher for the window, I mean cool grey, purposeful grey, edgy-I-still-rock-directional-clothes-and-turn-heads grey.</p>
<p>“Ah, but you can’t,” say the hairdressers &#8211; every single damn one I’ve ever asked.“ You’re too dark. Too much bleach. Your hair would just break.”</p>
<p>Curses! I am destined to slowly evolve into – I can’t hardly write the words – a middle-aged woman with straggly salt and pepper locks? Will I also have to wear cardigans? Will I? WILL I?</p>
<p>Because I think full grey is incredibly beautiful. And the shades, from an almost-white silver to a deep graphite, grey can match any skin tone. And coupled with the sort of clothes I could only dream of affording when I was 20 and owner of an untainted chestnut mane, it’s high of my list of looks to aim for.</p>
<p>It’s elegant. It’s classic. And nowadays, it doesn’t automatically mean five years from death. It means you’re embracing the inevitable process of ageing with poise and sanguinity &#8211; and in this day and age of butt lifts and Facetune, Lord knows we need more of that. I am 100 per cent in.</p>
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<p><strong>J&#8217;ABHOR, says Muddy founder, Hero Brown</strong></p>
<p>OK, I know grey hair is a huge beauty trend, headed up (geddit?) by super-chic <em>Vogue</em> staffer Sarah Harris (google her and gawp). I know it looks ridiculously cool on insouciant twentysomething hipsters in Hackney. And I know it&#8217;s one of those things that &#8211; like the menopause and one&#8217;s boobs heading south &#8211; comes to us all as time ticks on.</p>
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But, as you may have noticed, I&#8217;m not a twentysomething Hackney hipster and just because something is inevitable it doesn&#8217;t mean I want to embrace it. And so I don&#8217;t. In fact I spent 30 minutes artfully arranging my pony tail and attacking my hairline with root retoucher before heading out to a party on Saturday night &#8211; time very well spent, in my opinion.</p>
<p>And that was only because I hadn&#8217;t managed to nab a salon colour appointment in time for my night out. Blitzing those greys gives me the perfect excuse to visit the hairdresser every six weeks for highlights. And, god, I <em>love</em> going to the hairdresser &#8211; free coffee and those moreish biscuits, two hours to read magazines uninterrupted, no pesky children to bother you and you leave looking refreshed, well-polished and like you can take care of business; your own and potentially everyone else’s. What&#8217;s not to like? It&#8217;s a confidence trick, sure, and an expensive one at that &#8211; but one I&#8217;m fully on board with. Going grey? No way, José.</p>
<p>What do you think? Adore or abhor? Look out for our poll on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/muddystilettos/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Instagram Stories</a> and have your say on grey!</p>
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